Well, I kind of messed myself up with this potty training deal. I am a part-time working momma and therefore have a big chunk of my week where it's just not wise to start potty training as I won't be there. I knew I was on the last of my free days, but just wanted to catch a pee in the potty. I thought that was as far as it would go. However, my son kind of ran with it... So despite our success yesterday, my son is back in diapers today and will have to wait a few more days before we officially begin our big potty training marathon. Not idea, but we'll make it work.
Here's how yesterday went:
After afternoon nap, I decided that snack time was a perfect opportunity to finally catch that pee we've been trying for all week. It often takes just one pee in that potty to really be able to start. At this age, they have no clue what you're doing until they see how they peed at least once.
Let's back up a little now and explain the pre-training work. I've had the potty chair in our bathroom for months now. I helped my son practice sitting on it and made a big deal about how it was his potty and differentiated it from mommy and daddy's potty. He gets his own special frog potty! He has played with it and enjoys sitting on it. Part one: get over fear of sitting on potty. Check!
For the past few weeks, I've known I wanted to start training pretty soon. Every now and again I would help him undress and sit on his potty while I sat across on mine. Of course, he never actually did anything, but we practiced going potty together. When he started getting resistent to the idea, I broke down and rewarded him with candy if he sat for a little while. That changed everything. :) Part two: get over fear of sitting on potty naked. Check!
This last week, I have been hoping to catch a pee in the potty. For several days now I have been sitting him down every time I have to go and encouraging him to go pee. Of course, he didn't really understand. We would clap for momma and check out how she went pee, but nothing from baby. I kept just missing the pee or he'd hold it so he didn't have to go in the scary potty.
Finally yesterday, I got smart...or desperate. A good way to make them need to go pee is to get them full of fluids. It was snack time, so we got a big cup of gatorade (I only let him drink water or milk so this was a special treat) and a snack cup and we went to sit on the john. I read books, played finger games and just waited for the inevitable. After the second cup, he had a HUGE belly, but was resisting with all of his might. It's scary to pee in weird, new situations! He was even dripping, but not go. 30 minutes later he just has to let go! Now, I'm not an advocate for letting your kids sit forever. You really have to watch it because their legs go numb and that's painful! However, we switched positions around and he could touch the floor, so his legs were fine. Sometimes that first one just takes time.
A celebration exploded in our bathroom at the sight of that pee! In fact, he was so startled that he stopped. :) He got a good bit in there, but as I was later to find out that was a very small part of his very full bladder. Beware of that. He got two pieces of candy for his troubles. We emptied the pee in the potty and celebrated flushing it down. He still didn't quite understand what had happened, but he was starting to get it.
I got a wild hair and decided to throw those training undies on. We talked about they were dry and touched the comfy softness of the dry undies. I set a timer for 10 minutes...however, I didn't realize at that point just how full his bladder still was. 5 minutes later he looks horrified as he feels wetness running (ok, squirting) everywhere. Most children HATE the feeling of wet undies! He was already done so we didn't run to the potty (although this is a good first step), but said his big phrase "oh know!" and talked about how that made a mess. I had him touch his undies to see they were wet. (Note: not appropriate to rub them in it or on their face. That's gross. Just help them to understand kindly that it's wet. It's an idea of wet vs. dry, NOT a punishment.) I had him help me clean it up (it's important that they realize their messes create work and they will have to do some of it, sanitarily of course.). Then we went and tried again on the potty to see if there was more.
No luck. So we got back in undies and set the timer for 10 minutes. He still wasn't done. You'd think mommy would have caught on. 5 minutes later just as he starts he goes "oh no!". We rush to the bathroom. He had stopped by then, but by waiting for a little while we got another big pee in the potty! Big celebration! If they fail and succeed all at once, celebrate the success, get past the failure.
Well, the afternoon continued on like that. In the end, we had a total of 3 in the potty, 4 out of the potty. This is really typical for the first day or so. However, by the end of the day we had learned where pee comes out, where it's ok to pee, what it feels like to pee, and what the rewards and downsides were to following or not following the potty training rules. He was very proud of himself and so was mommy! The last time, he didn't take very long and peed like a pro!
One other word of advice, if they won't pee in front of you, maybe they're just nervous. It's hard to pee on command when someone is watching. The last time, I caught on to this so I left the room instructing him to pee. A few seconds later I hear some excited chatter. I came back to a very full little potty chair! A little trick I learned, don't make a habit of hanging out in the bathroom. If you leave, they will be able to sit longer and the privacy (and boredom) often causes a quicker result. Or feel free to leave them with some books or toys to play with. Just once you feel that they are ready, let them try. At some point, they need those apron strings to be let out and to realize this potty thing is their own responsibility.
So that's my word on our first potty day. We will continue trying this week, but in a few days when I have a few off days in a row we will go straight undies all day (except sleeping) and just get this done!